Joining in the complaining will turn your brain to mush. My favourite quotes from this article:
“Exposure to 30 minutes or more of negativity… actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus. “That’s the part of your brain you need for problem-solving,” he says. “Basically, it turns your brain to mush.”
Typically, people who are complaining don’t want a solution; they just want you to join in the indignity of the whole thing. You can almost hear brains clink when six people get together and start saying, ‘Isn’t it terrible?’ This will damage your brain even if you’re just passively listening. And if you try to change their behavior, you’ll become the target of the complaint.”
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