I occasionally work with a coaching client who knows they want to change but they feel “stuck”. There’s a lovely definition of it in this podcast, an interview with Britt Frank, author of The Science of Stuck, Breaking Through Inertia to Find your Path Forward
She makes an important distinction between
goodness
and
wholeness
Focusing on goodness and neglecting wholeness won’t work she says. And being stuck isn’t just mental:
motivation is physiological first and psychological second
So before you think you’re a bad person, go get some sleep, eat right and all of the hygiene factors.
This episode with Terry Crews (of Brooklyn 99 fame) digs into the actor’s psyche and his version of toxic masculinity, and how he works to overcome it.
Hidden about 43 minutes in is a useful way to ask people who think they know everything about how they might open up their minds.
Are you right about everything?
What are you wrong about?
How would you know what you were wrong about?
How come you don’t have a way to find out what you’re wrong about?
I have not yet had occasion to use it, and it will be interesting to experiment with. I’m more and more concerned about the great divide. How even the most intelligent and educated I know are scalding about people at the “other end” of the continuum (of politics, weight-loss techniques, fitness, anything). It saddens me and worries me, because I love people at all ends of the spectrum. People are so complex!
I’m enjoying every episode of the You are Not So Smart podcast for this reason
