How to Criticize with Kindness Is a summary of philosopher Daniel Dennett’s book which includes the four steps to arguing intelligently.
- Re-express your target’s position so that your target says, “Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way”.
- List where you agree
- Mention anything you have learned from your target
- Only then are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.
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